Online Personals and Internet Dating - Is There Anyone Out There?

By Daryl Campbell

You want to meet a person that is on the same wavelength as you. You are romantic but you do not necessarily believe in love at first site. You understand it takes time in getting to know someone.

So you have been trying this internet dating online for quite some time. You know about the incredible benefits such as convenience, availability and a wide variety of potential partners to choose from tailored to your specifications.

Unfortunately you still have not heard from anyone. Why not? It could have a lot to do with the type of profile you have put out there. Just like the classified section of your local newspaper the whole point of writing an online personal profile is to sell yourself. You are inviting people to check out what is under the hood i.e. what you have to offer as a person and what you can bring to the relationship table.

Therefore it can be pretty disheartening when you do not find any takers from the product known as you. Indeed it appears like you cannot even get people to kick the tires. But do not beat yourself up. Many online dating participants have a tendency to start blaming themselves to the extreme when nobody answers their ad. All this does is sabotage them for any possible future contact. They try too hard when someone finally does respond; in doing so they push a would-be partner away (being aggressive in online dating is a red flag to many people). The result is it drives their already shaky confidence down a little bit further. Eventually they give up all together.

No need to go that route. Sometimes it just comes down to making some tweaks here and there. You did not necessarily do anything wrong. Nobody writes the perfect online profile but there maybe things you can do to make it more attractive:

1. Write a report. NOT!

Giving a list of facts about your life maybe truthful but it can also be frightfully dull. People reading your profile want to make a connection with you therefore write a short story about your life. Do not try to cram in every detail; just enough to entice people to want to know more. Use humor where appropriate however you are not a clown so do not try to be funny every other sentence.

Also try to strike a balance in the confidence scale. Boasting will make you sound like a potential jerk but playing it too sympathetic may come off like you are looking for a shoulder to ALWAYS cry on. That is a turnoff.

2. Exactly

Stay away from speaking in generalities when it comes to your profile. You like music. Who doesn't? What types of music? Write them down in your profile. Mention a certain artist or song. Music is a great connecting force. Be specific. People want to know or at least get a feel for the kind of person they maybe dating so let them into your world a little bit more.

3. Accentuate the Positive

Your last relationship ended so miserably even the dog left you. That is life. Things happen but there is no need to keep hammering the point. You are dating online to get a fresh start not to get counseling. Focusing on the negative will only keep people from wanting to meet you. Misery may love company but it can get old real quick. Leave whatever failed relationships you had in the past.

An online personal ad is meant to introduce you to the community and attract a partner who is on the same wavelength. That is why it is important to write an interesting profile that speaks in specifics and highlights the positive while remaining truthful. So if you have to make tweaks to your ad do it now and pretty soon you will have people standing in line who cannot wait to get to know you.

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Online Dating Photo - How to Get One for Your Profile

By Jason Sun

You may think obtaining a photo to use in your dating profile is easy, but not everyone is as techie as you and I have seen many people are clueless on this. They often say things like I don't have a digital camera or I don't have a scanner.

Actually, there are many easy ways to get yourself a digital photo. Here is a list of possible ways I can think of.

1. Ask your friends or relatives to take picture(s) for you and email it to you.

After receive the photo, save it to a folder on your computer and then upload it to the dating sites or whatever sites you need a photo for.

2. If you have party pictures that someone sent to you, you can use it.

Make sure you have sought permissions to use from the people who also appear in the photo with you. If you don't want to show other people on that picture, you can use Microsoft Paint to easily edit it so that only you are in the photo. Microsoft Paint is available to all Windows systems, including 98/Me/2000/XP/Vista.

3. Use your webcam.

Do you have a webcam sitting beside your PC? Do you know you can use it to take pictures?

Yes, you can use a webcam to take pictures. The picture quality may not be as good as those taken by a decent digital camera, but it's still acceptable for web use.

4. Use your mobile phone to take pictures.

Normally your mobile phone has a USB port that can be used to transfer pictures or videos to your computer. Note that not all USB connectors on mobile phones are the same. So make sure that you use a cable with connectors that will fit into the ports on both your mobile phone and your computer.

If you're not sure what kind of connector to use, you can take your mobile phone to the store or company where you bought it and consult them.

You will probably also need software from the phone manufacturer to transfer photos via USB cable to your computer. This software may probably already come with the phone when you bought. Check your photo package to find out, or you may search the manufacturer's website to download it.

5. Scan a photo and use it.

If you have photos which were developed from films, take them to your local photo store and ask them to scan for you. They can either email the scanned photos to you or save onto your floppy disk or thumb drive.

That's it. At the digital age, it has never been easier to get your photos online.

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Dating After Divorce - The First Steps

By Annie O'Neill

Before you start dating

The first and most important thing to do before you start dating again is to learn to love yourself. If you are not happy with yourself you cannot expect someone else to be able to make you happy. Happiness comes from within.

If you do not love yourself, ask yourself why and make some changes in your life.

If you have low self-esteem try writing a list of all the things that you know you are good at, list everything (good friend, good parent, good cook, good timekeeper, good organiser, good communicator). Don't leave anything out. When you have done this ask at least two of your friends to add to the list. You will be surprised at the qualities that other people see in you that you don't see in yourself. Most important of all - believe it when other people tell you good things about yourself.

Make sure that you spend time identifying what went wrong in your previous relationship. It doesn't matter who made the decision to leave - both parties need to identify what caused the relationship to fail. Do you have annoying habits? Did you change during the relationship? What qualities will you look for in a new partner? Will they be different? Make sure that you really examine what went wrong in your previous relationship and what you want from a new relationship. It is very easy to repeat the pattern in your next relationship if you have not consciously identified what it was and made an effort to prevent it happening again.

Before you embark on a romantic relationship with anyone make sure that you like the person and can be friends with them. If you don't really like someone it is unlikely that you will stay together.

Think about your values in life and don't be prepared to compromise them.

Have you built up a life where you are happy and have lots of interests? It is important to have done this before you start dating. I firmly believe that both partners in a relationship should have their own interests as well as sharing interests.

Practicalities

There is no doubt that as you become older it is more difficult to meet new people. This is partly because we don't tend to go out in big groups as we get older.

Internet dating is becoming more popular all the time and I know of several people who have formed successful relationships in this manner. The best thing about internet dating is that you can build up a friendship online before you meet in person. However, it is important to remain cautious when meeting in person for the first time. Ensure that you arrange to meet in a public place, that someone knows where you have gone and who you are meeting and that you arrange to call someone when you get home safely.

Another way of meeting people is to join clubs such as dining clubs, reading groups or activity clubs. Alternatively why not take up a new interest? Dancing classes are becoming more popular and are not only a good way of meeting people but also good exercise. A quick internet search for clubs and societies or evening classes in your area will throw up endless opportunities, such as bridge clubs, camera clubs, chess clubs, salsa clubs, history clubs, scrabble clubs, amateur dramatics groups or join in with exercise classes at your local gym. Even if you don't meet someone you want to be romantically involved with you may well make new friends.

You often meet people when you least expect it. I know of people who have met at bus stops, on trains, at exhibitions and, of course, at work. The good news is that according to recent figures there are 11 million single people out there - you are not alone!

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First Date Conversation Topics When Meeting and Dating Women

By Scott Patterson

For a couple of days there, it seemed like the scary stuff was behind you. You had asked that cute girl out, she had said yes, and you had found yourself wrapped up in rosy visions of kissing, canoodling and her laughing wildly at your jokes.

And then you realized. Jokes. Conversation. The most intimidating part is yet to come: you've got a first date to go on and you don't know what to say.

Suddenly you're scared of uncomfortable silences. You've convinced yourself you'll offend her with every word you utter and the only sentence she'll be saying is, "Sorry, I've got to go."

Well, calm yourself down. That isn't going to happen.

You see, I know how to make first date conversation - and I'm about to share my secrets with you.

The first trick is to act calm and comfortable even when you're not. This isn't hard to do. Keep your hands still and your body turned towards her. Lean back a little, make eye contact and give her a genuine smile. Every so often, ask yourself if your shoulders feel stiff, and if the answer is yes, consciously relax them.

Now that you're sitting comfortably, it's time to think about what you could say.

Start by paying her a compliment. Admiring her slinky top or her striking necklace will instantly boost her confidence and help to put her at ease.

If you don't know her well, start with a little small talk. Find out what she does for a living and how she spends her free time. Ask if she has ever been to this venue before and whether she has lived locally all her life. Quickly covering the basics will get you both used to talking to each other and will give you points to refer back to later in the night.

Remember that this is your chance to portray yourself in a positive way, so keep the tone light and your comments optimistic. Listing all the things that get you down will make you appear negative and unfriendly so resist any urges to complain about work, worry about money or criticize the bar staff.

It's important to show a real interest in your date, so ask plenty of open ended questions about the things that she enjoys. Enthusing about her hobbies and ambitions will put her in a great mood and she'll start to associate that happiness with you.

Never interrupt her when she's speaking. It's rude and shows a lack of interest in what she's thinking. Instead, wait for your turn to talk, and then give upbeat but honest answers to anything she asks you. Don't feel that you have to agree with her opinions, but avoid becoming strident or aggressive when presenting your own point of view.

If conversation seems to be drying up at any point, a great way to revive it is with hypothetical questions. Ask what she would do if she won a million dollars, where she would love to live in the future or what sort of superhero power she would like.

Remember that she is just as anxious to impress you as you are to be a hit with her, and accept that every first date has awkward moments. Your aim should be not to fill every second with scintillating conversation, but to find common points of interest and to put each other at ease. So relax, enjoy yourself and you could be pleasantly surprised by how the night turns out.

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How To Find A Gay Online Dating Service That Is Safe To Use

By Jason King

There are a few things to have in mind when you are looking for a gay online dating service. The web site should have a privacy statement that tells you that they will protect your information. You will also discover more about their confidentiality issues by viewing the terms of agreement. This section could also include wording that tells you if they check members to see if they're married and to see if they have a criminal record. More and more gay dating web sites are taking this route, but if they don't protect you in some way, you going to one day invite another gay single into your home after a couple of offline dates, so you should to be careful.

May sure the gay online dating service you're about to sign up with has a current copyright. If the gay dating site is an older one, they may not have recently got an up-to-date privacy policy, or even have any current members. The web site should have a continual update from year to year, or at least when the current copyright expires, they should renew the site with a current one. If you do find this to be an issue, you will be better off finding a new gay internet dating web site to try. Once you have discovered a gay service that has an up-to-date copyright with terms and privacy policies in order, look at the overall design of the site.

You need a gay online dating web site that is easy to use and understand. Everything is complicated enough when you're trying to date someone online, and wrestling with a site that is hard work can infuriate even the smartest PC users. Take a tour of the web site before signing up. You will find that all the best gay online dating web sites offer you a free trial. Always look at the small print before signing up. Make sure you know of all the features you get to use during your free membership. Also be aware of the duration of your free trial, some services offer you an unlimited trial, while others can be only a week.

If you find a gay online dating service that is new, and has hundreds of gay online daters living in your city, check a few of the profiles to see if they look real. Is the site padded with false profiles to attract you. You don't want to waste your time emailing false profiles. You can usually tell if the person is genuine or not. If someone appears too good to be true, they may be just that. Always check the gay online dating service for reviews or ratings somewhere online first. This is one option you can use to see how popular the web site is, and find out about the safety features.

As soon as your questions have been answered, you can create an account at a gay online dating web site, and begin looking for gay singles that interest you. It will be a moderately paced process at first, but that's what you need. You do not need to be overwhelmed with hundreds of messages to look through. If you are looking for a possible relationship, you should always get familiar with the online dater before meeting them offline. This is only another safety precaution to use when you first begin online dating.

Although this information is encouraging you to be vigilant, online dating is still the safest way to meet a prospective date. Get pleasure from your gay online dating experience, and never get too hung on contemplating the fact that all online dating singles are bad.

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For Women Only - 5 Simple Tips For Getting That Perfect Date For The Holidays

By Debbie Davidson

We all want that perfect date for the holidays, but how do you get him? With everything else you have to do this time of the year, here are five simple tips that will help you catch the date of your dreams.

Tip #1: Freshen up your look. Try a new hair style - maybe some soft bouncy curls for Christmas and a sleek sexy style for New Year's Eve. Make sure you have a hair style that makes you feel cute and sexy.

Tip #2: Kissable lips are a must! Whether you are a guy or a gal, your lips must be moist, moist, moist. There are lip masks available to help get rid of those chapped lips. To make your lips truly kissable, add a shiny new lip gloss on top of your color.

Tip #3: The holidays are the perfect time to shine. Put that extra gleam in your eyes by adding a highlighting frost to your eye shadow collection and be sure to wear a perfume that makes you feel absolutely sexy.

Tip #4: Find your best asset and flaunt it. If you've got dancing legs, show them off. Wear a cute skirt that's a bit shorter than the one you'd normally wear to the office. If your best asset is a little closer to your neck, wear a stunning new necklace that will draw his attention upwards.

Tip #5: The most important tip of all is your air of confidence. That's right! Don't go into a party stressing about all the stuff you still have to do -- walk in confident that you look great, you smell great and you're going to have the time of your life. That speaks volumes without you saying a single word.

Bonus Tip: The perfect date is NOT boring. You want somebody fun and so does he. Come up with four or five fun jokes to share with your girlfriends during the evening. Laughter draws attention. A woman who is obviously enjoying herself will catch and hold a man's attention quicker than a beautiful woman sitting quietly.

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7 Powerful Dating Moves Men Love

By Steve Ubah

Show appreciation after your date

Call the guy you just started dating to let him know that you really had fun and look forward to hanging out with him again.

Surprise him with a small gift on your next date

If you are really starting to like the chemistry you feel when you are with him, you can get him something to let him know you really dig him. Get him a little artwork. Get him something he can hang on his wall or kitchen. But make sure that before you do this that you have seen his home and know the kind of art he would appreciate. Do not spend a lot of money on this, or it will feel a little too much too soon.

Invite him over to your place and cook him his favorite dish

If cooking is not your forte, it is ok. You can order something from a restaurant you know he likes and just have a romantic dinner with candles and soft music.

Always look your best since men are visual beings

They love it when you understand that and do your best to satisfy this need to see their woman beautiful. If you have a great figure, show it off. Wear outfits that will accentuate the best part of your body, i.e., your legs, breast, eyes, skin, hair, etc.

Do what you say and say what you mean

Men cannot stand women that play with their emotions. Do not play head games with your date. If you say that you will see him next weekend, do not make other plans and then call him last minute with a lame excuse about how your mom fell sick and you are the only one that can take care of her. Be honest with your guy, and do not blow smoke up his you know what.

Have a courteous cell phone manner

You can certainly take calls from friends, but make it short and sweet. When you take those long calls and ignore your date, you send a message that you do not really care about the date, and you would rather be somewhere else.

Make him feel important

When you are out and you see your friends, properly introduce him as your friend. Do not chat and laugh with your friends without involving him.

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Internet Dating Online - How Telling the Truth Can Make Your Life Easier

By Daryl Campbell

A few years back when online dating started to come into vogue there was a good bit of speculation that it would put an end to some of the wonderful aspects of traditional dating like candle lights and wine, walks on the beach and all that other good stuff. In fact the thinking in some quarters was it would basically turn into a grocery store, where you went online and picked someone off the shelf. Cyberspace was changing people from person to product; all the while taking the fun and romance out of dating.

And guess what? These folks were wrong. Sure the variety of potential partners to choose from can be reminiscent of a department store but what many of the so called experts did not take into account is that people learned to adapt. Many online daters have turned internet chats into their own prescreening process. In other words, they still experience and enjoy all the trappings of time-honored romance when they meet their date for the first time; the difference is they have a little more information to go on and also a lot more conversation to bring to the table.

Whether online or off, one of the essential factors of building a relationship is truth. In a traditional blind date you maybe be able to get away with exaggerating some of your attributes and accomplishments; not so much in cyberspace. Besides being the right thing to do there are a number of benefits to telling the truth

1. First Impressions

You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Remember there is already an established history, so if you meet someone for the first time after bragging that you are an athlete and it becomes obvious that you are a couch potato then watch out. There's nothing wrong with being a couch potato (if that's what you enjoy) but be honest about it. Whether your date likes staying home with a bowl of chips watching the different variations of C.S.I.is irrelevant. The point is what you said online turned out to be true. That's a major plus.

2. Trust

No they still do not really know you but everything you said turned out to genuine. That is a sign of a being sincere which is a great starting point to building a friendship. If you have to choose between romance or friendship choose the latter. Romance is capable of letting your emotions get carried away. Friendship is trust which can lead to a better and stronger relationship.

3. It's just so easy

Have you ever seen one of those movies where the crooks go through some elaborate planning to pull off a robbery? It would be easier if they just got a job and pick some quality stock or mutual fund. Same goes for lying. It not only takes a lot of work but you have to be on guard constantly so as not to get caught. You cannot really relax and enjoy yourself knowing that the truth could come back to bite you any minute.

Truth is essential to dating. If you feel compelled to exaggerate so the other person will like you more, than it is not worth it. That's the beauty of internet dating online; the variety of choices you have to find that special person who is more to the liking of the real you.

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Dating Advice for Women - Look Past the Paycheck for Love

By Ronnie Ann Ryan

Are you a successful career woman who would like to find a loving relationship? Have you been frustrated by the men you meet and feel they are not your equal? You may be wondering if you'll ever meet a man who measures up and you are not alone in this plight.

As women have taken on more traditionally male high-powered jobs, this has created a strong ripple affect on their love lives. In times past, women often married up, using their good looks or background to get a man who was considered a "good provider." But, if women are going to occupy many of those "good provider" jobs, perhaps they can loosen up the need for Mr. Equal Income and think of other important qualities that a life partner can offer.

For example, this study conducted by Michael R. Cunningham, a psychologist and professor of communication at the University of Louisville demonstrates a shift in priorities that has already occurred. He asked college women if, upon graduation, they would prefer to marry a high school teacher who works short days, has summers off and energy to help raise children, or with a top-earning surgeon who works a heavy schedule. Three-quarters of the women chose the teacher!

Here are some ground-breaking facts paraphrased from a 9/23/07 New York Times article entitled "Putting Money on the Table" by Alex Williams. For the first time in history, 20 something women who work full time in big American cities like New York, Chicago, Boston and Minneapolis, are earning more than the same age men based on an analysis of 2005 census data by Andrew Beveridge, a Queens College sociology professor. This gap stems from a significant difference in education - 53 percent of women in their 20s working full time are college graduates, compared to 38 percent for men. Plus, more women have graduate degrees.

Ouch - that gap is definitely going to require rethinking male marriage partner potential isn't it? And that shift is happening for women in their 20s as noted above. But this change is happening at many levels.

I have several college friends who were earning over $200,000 in high powered jobs who married men that were not their professional equals. One friend married the manager of a small Inn where she stayed on vacation in the South of France and another married a man who was the personal assistant of a wealthy business man. They are happy couples with children and it's working out very well for them.

Personally I married a man who didn't graduate from college. Even though I have an MBA, I figured his education didn't have to be a factor in my MRS. He's kind, adorable, generous, emotionally available, and supportive. He can pretty much fix anything, leaves his job at work and comes home to make me tea in the afternoon. I don't think I'm lacking for much as a result of his not being my education or career equal.

You can say I settled if you want. And I'll even agree - I settled for a heart of gold and a happy relationship with a really good man.

If you are a highly successful woman reading this article, and you'd like to find love, maybe it's time think about other qualities that would work for you in a romantic partner. You want him to be employed and financially independent? That's fair. But how much money he makes might not be the most important criteria to use. It's time to look past the paycheck to find the love you want and deserve.

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Organizing Your Love Life

By Wendy Bridger

Most of us understand the importance of keeping our lives organized. If we don't, we can't find things when we need them, miss important appointments, and cannot be as effective. From planners to closet organizers, we have plenty of tools to help us stay orderly and on track.

Wouldn't it be great if you could some how organize your love life? So often, we feel finding the right one is so important, but we leave it to chance and circumstance to help us create and keep a happy relationship where both parties understand and support each other long term. Some people lament that they can't do more to be more effective in the dating scene.

Is it possible to organize your love life? Yes! There is something you can do to find the right guy when we're single, even recognize him when he comes your way, and make the dating game less painful and scattered.

The most important thing you need to know is who you are and what makes you tick. Most people can tell you what their favorite food is. But few can tell you why they always fall for the "Bad Boy" type, never can find a guy good enough, or continue to nag at their boyfriends when it only leads to arguments and eventually breakups. Understanding who you are deep down is key to answering those questions, and then keeping them from happening over and over again in your love life. Sometimes these things are caused by deep psychological issues that need to be hashed out in counseling. Often, they are more a manifestation of your type of personality, and you only need to understand more about your personality to adapt to how it affects your love life.

Is there an easy way to find out more about yourself, and your personality? Yes! Just like there are tools to keep the rest of your life organized, there are personality assessments and quizzes to help you understand yourself and even your partner more clearly. Basically, these awareness tools organize your understanding about certain aspects of love and give you a framework in which to identify how you react in certain situations.

You can organize your love life, thus increasing your understanding for success. By simply knowing yourself, and your personality at a deeper level, you can change your love life from a hopeless disaster to a purposeful journey!

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Holidays for Singles - Odd Man Out

By Nina Atwood

It is that time of year again - holiday music playing, parties and merry-making, couples strolling along laughing, family, and all the trimmings. If you are not in a relationship, all the holiday trappings in the world may not stave off your feelings of loneliness. At parties, you may be the odd man out (or odd woman out). What can you do besides turn into Scrooge, mutter "bah humbug!" and withdraw?

Being single during the holidays does not have to mean suffering through and praying for the day after New Year. It can actually be an opportunity, if you choose to look at it that way. First, acknowledge that you cannot possibly be the only single person around. Odds are you are surrounded by others in your situation. Second, choose to initiate something rather than passively sitting around waiting for others to do so.

One option: organize a singles holiday party. If you belong to a church or synagogue, get on the committee to put the party together. If you do not, call one other single friend and enroll him/her in putting together an impromptu party. Each of you invites your circle of single friends. If you enroll one or two others to help, then they can invite their circle of single friends. Next thing you know, you have pulled together a party of 35 to 40 singles.

Do not be afraid to set standards for the guest list up front. Some people like to set the rule that each single brings an eligible opposite-gender friend (that they do not want to date). What you do not want is a room full of same-sex friends all standing around lamenting the lack of good people to date. That said, if you do have a mostly girl or mostly guy party, make it about setting your intentions going forward, not crying about the past.

At your singles party, invent fun activities that are also intentional and consciousness-raising. Have each person put together a dream list for the next year, relationally, career wise, and otherwise. Have people share their lists out loud. Create fun, enlivening games. DON'T encourage lots of alcohol consumption to drown your singles sorrows. DON'T let it devolve into a sex party, with couples retreating to bedrooms to drown their sorrows in meaningless hook-ups.

Another option: get yourself invited to your single friend's company holiday party. This works if there are lots of singles at the company and if guests are welcome. This can be a golden opportunity to meet someone new in a non-threatening, light-hearted environment.

Yes, go out to the bars and mingle with other singles, but keep alcohol consumption low and don't expect much from those activities. Instead, put on your creative hat and invent something new and different that will encourage connection on many levels - with friends and with potential new dating partners.

Post your creative ideas for singles holiday fun below - share the optimism, share what's possible!

Nina Atwood is a licensed therapist and nationally known relationship expert with three published self-help books on communication and love. Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding and Keeping Healthy Relationships, Date Lines: Communication From "Hello" to "I Do" and Everything In Between, and Soul Talk: Powerful, Positive Communication for a Loving Partnership. Her expertise is regularly sought by national media, including the Wall Street Journal, Health Magazine, Men's Health, LifeTimeTVOnline.com, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and many more. She has appeared on numerous regional television shows and hundreds of radio shows nationally. Nina's web site, http://www.singlescoach.com is accessed daily by thousands of single men and women seeking leading edge relationship advice. Nina's newest book, Temptations of the Single Girl: The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid, is scheduled for release by January 2008.

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The Benefits of a Dating Service

By Alan Lim

If you want to be choosy about your date

You do not want to rush into dating but would like to mull over the options before you finally decide on your first date. At the mean time, you would not like to hurt anyone's feelings but like to pass them over politely. This is actually the way a dating service would help you to go about things. You could have the benefit of interacting with many persons who you find pretty interesting, but would like to interact with them a little more before settling down to a date.

There is no problem with something like this because to delay meeting the person is helpful; so that you are more positive about the qualities by the time you meet. It gives you complete security to make your choice independently without any pressure on you.

Choose an appropriate dating service

There are many dating services that you will come across, so it is best to go through the details of their questionnaire and see if it has what you are comfortable with before selecting the dating service. Different services are offered on different sites and various dating sites. You would have to ensure that this is the right track for you before registering on it.

Once you have done the initial requirements, you will be registered on their site and will start getting communication from persons who find your profile interesting. Start chatting on line and see how you find the persons way of interacting with you. This will give you an insight into the kind of person you are chatting with.

You would also have to see where the person resides, as if they are in a different town or country, it would create problems for you to meet. So when you start chatting try and locate people who are in the same town as you, or at least in neighboring towns. So when you come to the stage that you want to meet up there should be no major problems with this. For any relationship to build up, it is important to communicate and then to be in touch regularly. Unless the relationship is something that has been on for a few years, a new one will not be able to take off with too little communications and meeting.

So this is another area that dating service can be of assistance, because you can phase out those that you feel will not be easy for you to keep up and maintain a regular contact with. Do not hesitate in registering on it, because you only stand to benefit if you go about it in a methodical and level headed way. People, who do register on a dating service, are usually well screened before they are exposed to others and vice versa. The sites maintain a particular standard of decorum and value the privacy and the safety of their clients always. So do not be uncertain but go ahead and get some happiness for yourself.

Well what are you waiting for, don't keep happiness at bay, but get on to Dating Service and allow yourself to live a full life.

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Proven Ways To Use Online Personals Dating Services

By Diane Winter

Availing of online personals dating services can be fun but there are many things that a person needs to know and to consider. Know the basics of how things go with an online dating service and you are a step closer to your dream match.

Why use the internet?

Dating over the internet is widespread. It is already very popular. It is actually getting bigger by the day. Many people are making use of the services and many more are signing up everyday. A lot of people want to get connected to others from all parts of the world, other want to get connected locally.

In these days online dating services are scattered all over the internet. They have made possible many romantic affiliations that ended up in marriage. They have also created many broken hearts. They have sealed many friendships and they have also made many impressions in the hearts and minds. These impressions are good as well as there are also bad. If you want to make use of online single dating services, do so with all the care that you can observe.

What to expect with these dating online sites

Online personals dating services will collect information from users such as the age bracket, gender and location. No person will really provide the exact true information about themselves. No matter what intentions they have for using such sites, they will not reveal everything. This is for security purposes. Keeping anonymity is good in this way of meeting people. Some people are only testing the waters. If they have found a person that they want to further the friendship with, there will be another part of their story and it will be covered by more truthfulness than their initial encounter.

Most of the sites allow people to upload photos. Some websites accept photos of all kinds. They have no restrictions and they accept even nudity. There are also websites that are discreet. They only accept uploads of decent pictures. They want to limit their clients to some degree of proper decorum.

There are chat rooms and dating service providers that are making use of web cams, message boards and online chatting. The person can choose the degree that they want to show to their online date. Most people do not reveal everything at first. They make the letting out of information controlled until they are really sure that they want to develop a deeper relationship with their online date. On the other hand, there are people of the opposite side. They provide everything initially and entertain as much suitors as they want and then they will limit their correspondence to the chosen few.

People that avail of online dating make use of different strategies in using these facilities. They are making use of such sites for different reasons also. Others could be looking for a serious and deeper relationship while others may just be looking for a friend. There are people that might be just doing it for passing while others may be doing it as a lifelong resolve to what they want.

Whatever purpose a person may have for accessing such sites on the internet, they better take safety precautions always. Not all people that make use of online personals dating services have good intentions. Others might just want to inflict harm, others might just want to scam. Learn to protect yourself when you are dating online.

Diane Winter provides helpful information to get the most success on dating online. For further information visit also Proven Ways to Find 100% Free Adult Personals and Using a Free Adult Dating Site for Women and Men to get some more ideas on How Adult Dating Sites can make being Single a Positive.

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Generational Differences - Communication Guidelines

By Becky Stewart-gross

Successful workplace communication involves communicating effectively with members of each generational group. You might be interacting with team members, employees, vendors, or customers who are from a different generational group than yourself. To communicate successfully you must be able to adapt to the Traditionalists, the Baby Boomers, the Gen X, and the Gen Y.

According to figures reported by RainmakerThinking the 2005 workforce is comprised of the following percentage of workers.

• Traditionalists 7.5%

• Baby Boomers 42%

• Generation X 29.5%

• Generation Y 21%

Members of these various generations exhibit different sets of work styles and work standards, which can make communication difficult. To assist you and your team in communicating effectively here are some guidelines for communicating with individuals in each generational category.

Keep in mind, however, that while these guidelines are helpful and tell us something about these groups of people, not every individual in a particular generational group matches the stereotype perfectly. Keep in mind also that some individuals might fall within a certain category because of their age, but their thoughts and actions suggest that they belong to a different group.

Traditionalists, Born: 1922-1945

In communicating with Traditionalists you should generally...

• Appeal to the greater good

• Appeal to their sense of right/wrong

• Communicate formally

• Communicate face-to-face

• Communicate with computer technology with caution

Baby Boomers, Born: 1946-1964

In communicating with Baby Boomers you should generally ...

• Emphasize fairness to all involved

• Use brainstorming techniques

• Communicate using face-to-face method or phone call

• Communicate more verbally than electronically

• Communicate with reference to the financial bottom line, when trying to justify a position

Gen X, Born: 1965-1976

In communicating with Gen X you should generally ...

• Stress personal security

• Stress personal goals

• Stress task at hand

• Give advice through a mentor

• Communicate informally

Gen Y, Born: 1977 - 2002

In communicating with Gen Y you should generally ...

• Communicate using full range of technology

• Expect constant feedback and reinforcement

• Share information using instant messaging, Internet, DVDs, MP3 players

• Focus on outcomes, not protocol

• Explain exact procedures

Practice these strategies for communicating effectively with each generational group and build bridges to better communication.

Over the past 20 years, Dr. Becky Stewart-Gross has worked with thousands of leaders and emerging leaders, from small family-owned businesses to large multi-national corporations. She is a sought-after trainer and member of the American Society of Training and Development. She is a professional speaker and member of the National Speakers Association.

Becky and her husband, Mike, recently authored Sleeping with Your Business Partner, a communication toolkit for couples in business together. Becky also authored The Leader's Communication Toolkit which focuses on how to select the right communication method in an electronic world.

Becky is president and founder of Building Bridges, which offers custom-designed communication training through seminars, consulting, and professional development coaching. She assists companies, teams, and individuals in building bridges to better communication.

To discuss a customed designed seminar or to purchase any of Becky's books visit: http://www.SleepingWithYourBusinessPartner.com or http://www.BuildingBridges.cc

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Why bad kissers don't get to second base

By Jocelyn Voo

(LifeWire) -- Bad kissers -- we've all locked lips with one: the lizard, the washing machine, the cannibal, the spelunker.

"I knew this girl that I'll call Big Tongue," recalls Craig Hinkle, 38, a Westminster, California-based network administrator. "Her tongue was massive, and she insisted on trying to put the entire thing in my mouth. She was very forceful with it, and I started choking."

You can guess that relationship didn't last. And now, what Hinkle knows from experience is actually backed up by science: Bad kissers have little chance of getting to second base.

In a study published recently in the scientific journal "Evolutionary Psychology," 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women said they've been in the position of being attracted to someone -- until they kissed the person.

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Dating Tips - Do's and Don'ts About Profile Photoshttp://theonlinedatingblog.blogspot.com/

By Mia Sidiro

In order to give your potential dates an idea of the kinds of activities you enjoy, post profile photos that have to do with your interests. Definitely post more than one photo, at least one full body shot and another at close range so that your potential dates have a clear view of your face.

Below you'll find some pointers to help you decide the types of profile photos to post:

1) Yes! Pick photos of yourself smiling as this shows friendliness and is regarded more positively by the viewer;

2) Yes! Pick recent photos of yourself, the key is honesty in profile photos and profile building;

3) Yes! Pick a photo showing your full body. It's not necessary to be in a swimsuit, just pick one that you are comfortable with; if you don't have a full body shot, then at least one to the waist;

4) Yes! Use natural, well-lit photos that will enable your potential online dates easy viewing;

5) Yes! Editing the photos you choose for your profile is a plus. Remove others that are in the picture so as to not confuse the viewer, cut the picture to size, and eliminate unnecessary items;

6) Yes! Upload a picture with a pet, if you have one;

7) No! Do not upload photos with exes! No one wants to see who you dated before. Keep in mind people are on online dating sites to meet new love interests and you showing yourself with an ex might lead them to believe that you are not over him/her;

8) No! Do not upload pictures in sexy lingerie or sleazy clothing unless you are on an adult dating site; this may lead the viewer to judge you as promiscuous, contrary to your profile and the type of relationship you are really seeking;

9) No! It is wonderful to show a picture of yourself with your pet, but 10 photos with your pet may lead the viewer to believe you are never without it. Or, don't upload all of your pictures all glammed up when you are a simple person, comfy in jeans or sweats.

The bottom line is to pick your profile photos carefully. The pictures you upload should compliment you and make you stand out and be noticed. Try to imagine what your potential date might be thinking while looking at them.

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5 Rules For Parents Dating After Divorce

By Seeta Dean

No matter what happened during your divorce or when, chances are there will come a time when you want to start dating again. However, it's important for parents to remember that the dating choices they make greatly affect not only themselves but their children. Making healthy, careful dating choices will help greatly contribute to the healing process for your entire family. Here are the five tips experts wish divorced parents knew about dating:

1. Give Yourself And Your Children Plenty Of Time To Heal And Adapt Before You Start Dating:

No matter how friendly and cordial your divorce, you and your children will need time to adjust and heal before you allow another person into your lives. It's important that you take the time to process, analyze and heal any issues that contributed to or were the result of your divorce. Not doing so sets the new relationship up for failure for all involved. Statistically, second marriages are less successful than first ones (over 60 percent of second marriages fail) so take all of the time you need to process why the first marriage failed. Most experts recommend waiting a year after martial separation to date, but this is an individual choice. If the thought of dating doesn't yet feel right, wait.

2. When You Begin Dating, Be Upfront And Reassuring With Your Children:

Fill your children in on your intentions, but keep it casual. Inform them that you'd like to start making friends and spending time with adults your own age. Acknowledge and address any feelings your children may express and reassure them that you will always keep all of your best interests in mind and would never let dating interfere with your time together.

3. Make Initial Introductions And Outings Casual:

Never try to force a new person on your children for long periods of time. Make sure initial introductions are fun, casual outings where the children can have an out if they're uncomfortable. Let your children get to know this new person slowly over time at their own pace. You're going to have a much healthier relationship if your children genuinely get a long with the new person, so do everything in your power to let the children initiate and pace their own relationship. It's also vitally important you do not allow your children to develop deep feelings for someone until you're absolutely sure that person is here to stay. Your children have already been through a lot of emotional drama with the divorce. You do not want the child to have to go through this again with another breakup.

4. Maintain Family Time And Traditions Separate From Your Dating Relationship:

No matter how great the person you are dating is, your children deserve time with only you doing things you enjoyed and could look forward to before the dating relationship. If you don't honor your children's special time and traditions, they will eventually resent the person you are dating for taking this (and you) away.

5. Always See The Situation From Your Children's Point Of View:

There are bound to be times when you're unsure how of how to best proceed for all involved. In situations when you aren't sure what to do, simply put yourself in your children's position. Really put yourself in their shoes and imagine how they must feel, even if their feelings seem irrational to you at the time. Looking at things from your children's perspective will almost always point you in the right direction - on the path to their best interest.

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How To Not Attract A Woman - Things To Avoid When Dating

By Kit Marsters

When you're out and interested in meeting someone special, it can be daunting to approach someone who catches your eye. Many of us have insecurities to deal with, and none of us like the idea of instant rejection. There's a lot of advice out there on how to get the woman of your dreams. Unfortunately, some of it just doesn't tend to work.

Chat-up lines, for example. Contrary to popular belief, they have a rather low success rate. Lines such as "Did it hurt when you fell from heaven" and "Do you come here often?" are so unoriginal that it's difficult to make a decent impression with them. And those are just some mild examples of what people come up with. The result tends to be a roll of the eyes, soon followed by the cold shoulder.

Poetic attempts should be avoided when approaching a woman. Especially when you're not a natural poet. But even if you're very good at coming up with poetic descriptions, you're not likely to get very positive results. The reason for this is that an approach of this kind doesn't tend to feel genuine. Nobody likes false flattery.

Asking a woman to buy you a drink in exchange for your company might not get you the results you are after. Not only will you probably end up without a drink, but you'll more likely than not find yourself a bit lonely. Yes, women enjoy equality. But we also like good manners. If you want to approach a woman, offering a drink is only polite. She might buy you one later on, if your company proves pleasant.

There's nothing wrong with being confident. However, bragging about your success and material possessions is not the key to good communication. Some men have the impression that women are after a man with a lot of money, a fast car, and a high-flying career. It is true that some women might be after that, but the majority of us really don't care. We're looking for someone with a good personality, who's kind and genuine and pleasant to talk with.

Being rude to a woman's friends is a bad idea. If a friend of someone who interests you approaches you, and you make unpleasant comments to them, the whole group of friends will know, and you will be avoided. It's a better idea to be polite and kind to all, even if you are not interested in them.

How then to approach a woman? It may sound like an overused statement, but just be yourself. If you do that, the woman who catches your attention will know who you are. That's far better than putting on an act. Not everyone will return your interest, but at least you stand a far better chance of getting a conversation going. Who knows where that might lead?

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